Thursday, September 6, 2012
Do we have to have it now?
You hear major media outlets talk on how they need to get the message they are trying to get across in less than 30 seconds or they lose the audience.
Look at Twitter. Yes, I use Twitter, and it can be a good information source when links are added, but limiting a post to 140 characters really makes for a short conversation.
I know it was a market selling point, but it seems that more people have fallen into this mentality of wanting things NOW.
Lets move the focus to relationships. I can remember, oh, not even 4 years ago when I got divorced that conversations with others seemed to last longer. You took more time to get to know someone. Now, it seems if things don't 'click' within the first few exchanges, one or both of the person's move on to the next one.
How much can you truly learn about someone in just a few short exchanges? Not much I contend. Even if they have a detailed profile you are looking at, that is still just a small snapshot into who they really are. The only way you are going to find out it to spend some time and effort to get to know them.
Call me old-fashioned, but I like to get to know the person before I make a decision like that. You don't know what kind of an impact this person could have in your life as a friend, best friend, companion, etc.
I have posted before that I am a firm believer that people come and go in your life. Some are around for a few weeks or months, others a lifetime. The times that they enter your life are usually during an event that they can help focus, if you let them. Everyone that enters your life serves some purpose, the trick is letting them fulfill that purpose.
That brings me back to the 'me me me' society we have today. I honestly believe that people are cutting those links too fast before that person fulfills that purpose in your life. A life with unfulfilled purpose is really no life at all as it would seem shallow and empty.
So lets do the age old adage, 'stop and smell the roses'. Lets not only smell the roses, but look at the petals, see how full they are. Look at the stem, and see the thorns as you carefully hold it, admiring its beauty and intoxicating smell, but also remember that it can cause pain. A rose is a good symbol showing that an item can be both pleasurable and painful, depending on how you look at it.